Dating in New York

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Ah the age old question…. what is the dating life like in New York? I get asked this question a lot. My answer: the same as everywhere else. I find the same pros and cons in New York as I did while living in Columbus. The only difference really is guys in Columbus are more willing to settle down at an earlier age than in New York. Another difference between the two cities is in Columbus I would run into guys that I stopped talking to on a dating app a lot more than I ever would in New York. I guess that is a plus for the dating scene in NYC.

I think what makes people believe dating in New York is so hard is because there are so many options. We also work until the late hours of the evening and travel a lot (not that this is not true for other cities). Then there is the location factor. If you are living in Tribeca you are probably not going to date someone who lives in the Upper East Side. Too long of a trek. My friends and I joke about the distance thing,  when one of us is talking to someone new. We all have our cutoff locations. Sorry Brooklyn but I am not crossing the bridge for you. I barely cross the bridge for my friends….

Dating really is all about your effort and how much of it you put into meeting someone new. I have friends who are very active on dating apps and go out on 2 or 3 dates a week. Then I have friends who barely open the apps and rely more on a organic approach. I am traditional when it comes to dating. I have been on dating apps and particularly do not like them. Considering my career is social media and I communicate through text, tweets, and posts, you think I find dating apps appealing or more my speed. But I am not a fan. Truthfully every time I get back on the any of the apps it never feels right to me. All power to you if you have found someone on there– I have friends who are currently married to someone they met on Tinder or Bumble. It is just not for me. I prefer a more organic approach to dating. In fact I prefer friends first then feelings come along later. And to be honest I find it to be a little too much work to talk to multiple guys at once. Who has time for that? I feel overwhelmed when I am messaging more than one guy at a time. I have better success when meeting someone through friends or out at night anyway.

If you haven’t realized by now, I am not a serial dater. Never have been, never will be. I also do not like to talk about my dating life. If someone ask me if I am seeing or talking to someone, I will tell them no. Even if I am chatting it up with a guy on Bumble or currently planning on meeting up with him. I keep dating to myself, especially if I am not that into the guy (yet). However, if I am into a guy, I will shout it from the rooftops and tell all of my friends. I haven’t really had this since the beginning of winter. I met a guy who I was instantly in awe of. It was one of those evenings where we instantly clicked and talked into the late, late hours of the night. We talked about everything. I felt like I had known him forever. Even to this day I will say he is the greatest guy I have ever met. The next night upon meeting him, I went out to dinner with a few friends and I couldn’t stop gushing about how wonderful I thought he was. But I rarely do this. So if I am openly talking about a guy, it means I really like him, other wise I will barely mention it to anyone– even if I am going on dates.

I also want to keep my dating life out of this blog. I know some bloggers are really open about dating, the struggles, the good moments, etc. I think that is great and I love when people talk about their dating experiences! It is a part of life and everyone has gone through heartbreak, joy, and awkward dates. But for me, I want to keep it private. It will not always be this case however. When the time comes when I finally meet a guy I am going to settle down with, he will be on this blog. You all will get to know him and hopefully fall in love with him like I did. I do want to have someone style mens clothing and take outfit posts. Someone to share this experience with. Until that happens it will be as if I am as single as they come.

Back to dating….Going on dates in New York, I think, are a little bit more fun. Sure most start off with meeting for a few drinks, but every once in a while you will go on a first date that is unique and different. My favorite first date I have had here we went swing dancing. I love to dance, so it was a perfect activity. I had so much fun! Other great date ideas are going to museums, free concerts in Central Park, rooftop bars, walk the Hudson River or the Highline, Ice skating in Central Park, playing games at the Fat Cat etc. There is so much to do here in New York, that dating can be fun and exciting. A chance to really show someone your true interests in a fun way. And you can meet people anyway really that does not have to be a dating app. You could meet someone at a birthday celebration, through a friend’s co-worker, at a cafe, workout class, networking event, events in general, through work, nights out with friends.. really anywhere, you just have to be open to the possibilities. Dating in New York is not scary or hopeless. You can find wonderful, smart, nice guys here… you just may have to kiss a few frogs before finding him.